Stop Wishin' Your Life Away, There's No Genie Here To Save You

I like doing fun things. I like going places. I like eating really good food. I like setting goals. I like meeting said goals.

It’s safe to say that these statements apply to most humans. We all like taking vacations and feasting and feeling like we’ve achieved things. It’s our nature. But if these things are so natural, why do we find it so difficult to do it?

Every twenty-something female I know “wishes she could travel more.” WELL NOW, MANDY, buying Starbucks every day is not really helping your vacation budget, is it?

My dear friend Shan and I were talking about this the other day. As both of us tend to say “sure, that sounds good, let’s do it,” we have often received “man, I wish I could do that” from our peers after we do something fun.

These same wishers are people who are in very similar situations as we are — there is absolutely no reason that they can’t take a vacation, run a race, or move to a new place.

It’s almost as though wishing is a way to say you’d love to do this cool thing, but you’re not willing to work for it. Or maybe you don’t believe you can. Or maybe you think that only “rich people” or “adventurous people” or “athletic people” can do that — trust me when I say that there is no stereotype you have to fit in order to achieve things. Don’t be lazy and use those stereotypes as an excuse — that is BALONEY, my friend. You’re better than baloney.

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Is you’re an avid “I wisher,” don’t fret. I’m not asking you to stop hoping for cool things, I’m merely encouraging you to set yourself up for success and start dreaming — it’s much better than wishing anyway.

A dream, according to my internet definition, is an ambition.

A wish is a hope for something to happen.

Wishing is what you do in regard to things that you have no control over. But dreams, my friends, dreams are for things you can make happen.

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Dreams are what fill up vision boards and agendas and memories.

Dreams inspire you to work harder.

Dreams shape you personally, professionally, physically, and mentally.

Dreams come true.

Wishes stay on your couch, binging Netflix.

The next time you catch yourself “wishin’ you could do that,” stop and ask yourself if you are willing to work for it. Then decide to do so — don’t limit your dreams by wishing them away.